Dearest Mothers, sisters, fathers and brothers,
I know a lot of fathers are reading my blog because I get
comments from them every now and then. I want to give them a huge shout out! My
husband is one of them!
As I lost my mother at a very young age and although my
sweet aunt took over most of the duties as a generous, wonderful mother to us,
my father was also our mother. This is really just going to be a little recollection
as I mother my child with my father as a role model.
The clouds would blanket the skies, the black crows would
line up on the power lines, huddled together too cold to fly, icy cold fingers
of the wind whipped our faces and then made its way deep into our bones,
perhaps even freezing them sometimes.
Sunday mornings, we would all have breakfast in bed with
our father. We were three girls. We sat around in his bed as he narrated tales about
his enchanting world. We listened with rapt attention and visualized each word which
materialized into pictures, graphics and holograms. He somehow made everything
come alive. I remember laughing till I cried and sobbing silently with some of
his really poignant tales.
The male influence is so imperative in your child’s life
too. The ying and the yang. Gone are the days when the mother was blamed for
the children’s foibles, now men are equally responsible for the upbringing. Historically
the mothers were more involved in the child rearing but studies now show that
Fathers should play a distinct role in child development as those results in a
more positive outcome for the future of the child.
Spiritually speaking, the child does seek out the male or
female characteristics to integrate within themselves. A child is looking for
balance from an outside source so being really conscious and aware of the way
the mother treats the father and vice versa is important to remember.
I have often seen parents allowing the child to talk
disrespectfully to them. Their reasoning is that they are allowing their child
to be free, but in the same token the
parent is teaching the child that it is acceptable to be treated with disregard, so the child too will agree to
be treated in a similar fashion in life, it is not just about manners. It is
eventually about self respect and how they treat themselves.
What kind of role model are you? I am not asking you to
become someone else here, but intrinsically you are that spiritual being that
does respect and is balanced with the male or female energy present within you.
I am simply asking you to become aware of that and encourage the male
participation (if there is little) into your child’s life.
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